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Norwegian Seaman's Mission

A Testimonial to the Life of

Kirsti Styker




Dear Family and friends of Kirsti Styker

 

On behalf of the Norwegian Seamen’s Mission, we were saddened to learn of the passing away of Mrs, Kirsti Styker.

 

With her, probably the longest chapter of the history of the Norwegian Seamen’s Church in Montreal is closed, and a very faithful servant of the Lord has been granted the heavenly promotion! She came to our church in Montreal as the Minister’s wife when her husband, Arthur, was given the challenge to build up a Norwegian church in the city in 1949. She continued her deaconal work in the Norwegian community and congregation long after the church was closed down in 1994, and to many people, Kirsti’s concern and contact became the decisive element for keeping together the Norwegian community after the church building was gone. “Our unofficial deaconness”, was the honorary title people bestowed on her, long before the church staff was brought back to Norway, and it became even more true as years have passed by.

 

Back in Norway, many of Kirsti’s and Arthur’s successors today will think back on a person whose energetic and self-consuming service earned her a big place in the hearts of many people. The church staff and their families enjoyed, in succession, her local knowledge about the city and the Norwegians living there, but also her hospitality and traditional meals: Soup and chocolate! When new co-workers arrived, Kirsti was clever at showing them confidence and collaboration, even if she  was probably  both anxious and reluctant.

 

While Arthur left his footprints in the hearts of many seafarers with his quiet and at times “mystical” manner (his asserted Indian background causing considerable curiosity among the sailors), the rest of the activity of the Church was the work of Kirsti! Her ability to ask for gifts from ships sailing up the St. Lawrence River and transforming them into delicious meals and cozy gatherings at the church on Dorchester Street, are almost legendary. It has been said that while he was the Pastor, she was the Church! When Arthur had to end his service for health reasons in 1967, Kirsti kept up her deaconal work – both for her husband until his death in 1976, as well as for the many people that she saw needed support and assistance to cope with their lives. Late or early; she was on her feet on hospital visits and housecalls, sitting for hours on bus and metro to move around among her countrymen living in the city and its suburbs.

 

Kirsti knew how to draw the many Norwegian students staying in Montreal in the ‘50’s to church, and effectively and authoritatively, she put them to work for the best interests of the church and the Norwegian sailors. She rarely took “No” for an answer, and would often express herself in a manner that seemed strict or harsh . But her heart of gold and love for the Lord prompted her indefatigable efforts. Not for her own gain, but for the seamen’s church serving people in their everyday life.

 

Many people can witness the crowded stairways in the Dorchester parsonage as Kirsti and Arthur invited sailors and residents, and so many people turned out. Born in the USA, Kirsti grew up at Svanøy, near Florø – the pearl of the West coast! She trained as a registered nurse, and worked as parish nurse in Vadsø near North Cape when she met Arthur. They were married in 1940, lived, due to the war, for some time in Tromsø, and took part in the rebuilding of the new church in the Lapp center of Kautokeino before heading for Canada end Montreal. Everywhere, Kirsti collected her experiences in her mind, and retold the stories for enthusiastic listeners at the gatherings in the seamen’s church. Therefore, listening to her stories was always interesting: Never without an important issue: our responsibility for each other and a challenge to serve. And never without afterwards practicing what she preached. The most important part of her visitor service  was probably all the visits that nobody else knew of: She did not keep statistics, and she did not ask any superior permission to go visiting: she just visited the needy simply because she felt a calling from her Lord and Master, Jesus Christ.

 

When the church moved to Bellerive St. in Montreal East, the distance became long. But Kirsti attended faithfully, at services and on other visits several times a week. Her awareness for who was in need of special attention or concern, was an important asset for the church staff. However, first and foremost, Kirsti was very distinct that she represented the church and her Master even when she went on her own behalf. This service continued even after the Seamen’s Mission withdrew from Montreal, and Kirsti continued her work out of St..Ansgar’s while making great efforts in keeping up the visits from the Seamen’s Church pastor in New York. This way, she has contributed to the continuation of Norwegian services in Montreal on a regular basis – until this day….

 

In 1985, Kirsti Svanoe Styker was honored with the St. Olav’s medal  for extraordinary services for Norway abroad. For her, this became an important satisfaction after having struggled for years to obtain Norwegian retirement benefits. Through all her working years, Kirsti had been a “volunteer”, and therefore had to rely on benevolence from the authorities in the country she left behind, in order to serve its people when calling on ports in a foreign land! She never stopped loving her home country and her dear Svanøy, which was talked about with the kind of love that must have contributed to the glowing enthusiasm that characterized Kirsti’s life.

 

To Kirsti, it was a severe blow to lose the Norwegian church in Montreal. She understood and accepted this, because she realized what had happened in the maritime industry and Norwegian establishments, but she could never reconcile herself with the fact that her life’s achievement in Canada was closing. We are grateful for her faithful loyalty and creative contributions for a solution, and that she found her new spiritual home at St. Ansgar’s. We are also grateful for the support of  her four children (Gunnhild, William, Roy and Ellen) who have been there for her in a time of heavy burden, and for members of the Norwegian community whose contributions have eased Kirsti’s pain the last months of her life. First and last, we wish to thank Kirsti Styker for her contribution and her sacrifice through all these years in Canada. We ask for God’s blessing over the remembrance of Kirsti Styker, and make the words of the apostle Paul and expression of her great effort:

 

I have done my best in the race, I have run the full distance, I have kept the faith.

And now the prize of Victory is waiting for me….  (2.Tim 4,7-8)

 

Kjell Bertel Nyland                                                             Harald Daasvand

Secretary General                                                                        Former pastor

The Norwegian Seamen’s Mssion                                     Montreal

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Prepared by Roger Kenner
St. Ansgar's Lutheran Church - Montreal
January, 2003