If your brother sins against you, go to him and show him his fault…. Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, "Lord, if my brother keeps on sinning against me, how many times do I have to forgive him? Seven times?" "No, not seven times," answered Jesus, "but seventy times seven, because the Kingdom of heaven is like this
Eighty-nine relatives of Simon Wiesenthal were murdered by the Nazis. Wiesenthal became a Nazi hunter after the war and wrote a book that began with a true experience he had while he himself was a concentration camp prisoner. One day he was yanked out of work and taken up a back stairway to a dark hospital room. A nurse led him into the room, then left him alone with a figure wrapped in white, lying on a bed. The figure was a badly wounded German soldier, whose entire face was covered with bandages.
With a trembling voice, the wounded German made a confession to Wiesenthal. He told about the brutal measures his S.S. unit had taken against Jews. And then he told of the terrible atrocities that he himself had committed against the Jews. Several times Wiesenthal tried to leave the room, but each time the ghost-like figure would reach out and beg him to stay.
Finally, after 2 hours, the soldier told Wiesenthal why he was here. He then said, "I know that what I am asking is almost too much for you. But without your answer I cannot die in peace Wiesenthal writes." He asked for forgiveness for all the Jews he had killed. Wiesenthal sat in silence for some time. He stared at the man’s bandaged face. At last, he stood up and left the room without saying a word. He left the soldier to die in his torment, and unforgiven.
This true story about Simon Wiesenthal might be considered by some to be an extreme case, however, I believe this scenario is not unfamiliar to us. To forgive someone the hurt they have caused us, can be one of the toughest things that a Christian is called to do.
There are people who have fallen out with family members, who are no longer talking to one-time- best friends or who have dropped their connection with a congregation because they have found it impossible to forgive.
Like Simon Wiesenthal, the hurt is so deep. It would mean giving up too much to go to those who have hurt them and seek a way to be reconciled to that person. It is just too hard to forgive and put the hurt behind them and settle the differences between them.
Forgiveness is counter-culture. What I mean by that is that forgiveness goes against what is practiced in our society. Revenge, an eye for an eye, racism and prejudice are the ways our culture deals with hurt and those who offend us.
You may recall the time when the Pope was wounded in an assassination attempt.
Pope John Paul recovered from his wound, and he shocked the world when, on Christmas day, he paid a visit to Rome’s Rabbibia Prison to see the man who had attempted to kill him. The white-robed Pope and jean-clad killer huddled in the prison cell for 20 minutes, talking in low voices that could not be heard. When he emerged John Paul explained, "I spoke to a brother whom I have pardoned." The headline the following week in Time Magazine was "Why forgive?" It was as if the world could not come to terms with the prospect that it is possible to forgive someone like this assassin.
Forgiveness goes against the grain of our human nature. If someone offends us or causes us hurt in some way, it’s natural for us to want to break off our relationship with that person.
And so we see people dropping out of congregations, and children no longer talking to parents, neighbours ignoring their neighbours and so on. For these people there is no question about who should take steps to restore friendship – the person who has caused the offence. That’s the natural human way we deal with disagreements.
But Jesus says that Christians have a special responsibility when there is a falling out. It is the duty of the one who has been offended to renew the relationship that has been damaged. And this is where it gets hard. It is illogical and unfair to expect the one who has been hurt to make the first move to restore their friendship.
After all that person is the one who has offended me, he/she should come to me and own up to what they have done and ask me to forgive them. What is more, it is difficult to go and speak to someone when I am upset and hurt by what that person has done.
If there was a passage of Scripture that we would like tear out of our Bibles, it is Jesus’ words about forgiveness. They are just too hard to carry out. What Jesus had to say on this subject cuts us deeply because all of us at some time find ourselves in a situation where we are at loggerheads with another person.
Jesus said, "If someone sins against you, go and point out what out what he/she has done to hurt you and be friends again." Peter is concerned about how many times he should keep on forgiving someone. He is inferring that there must be a limit to the number of times he should have to forgive someone who repeatedly hurts and offends him. Jesus tells Peter that there is no end to the number of times we should seek a renewal of friendship - reconciliation
Then Jesus tells the parable about the man who had just been forgiven a huge debt by the king, but refused to forgive his fellow servant for a small insignificant amount. It’s tough to forgive, isn’t it? And yet, that’s exactly what Jesus commands us to do here. We are not told to do it if we feel like it.
We are told to take the initiative and attempt to work out reconciliation with the person who has offended us. And then there’s the other hard part about forgiveness. To forgive means to put the hurt behind you, never to drag it up again. We may not be able to forget what happened, but we will no longer hold it against the person we have forgiven.
It’s like the man who was telling his friend about an argument he had with his wife. He said, "Oh, how I hate it when does that, every time we have an argument; she gets historical." The friend replied, "You mean hysterical." "No," he insisted. "I mean historical. Every time we argue she drags up everything from the past and holds it against me!"
Forgiveness means letting go of our hurt pride, our need to get even – to take revenge, and do what is illogical and ever so hard. It means making our relationship with that other person the most important thing in our lives.
Jesus rates reconciliation as one of the most important things we can do. He said, "If you are about to offer your gift to God at the altar and there you remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar, go at once and make peace with your brother, and then come back and offer your gift to God" (Matt 5:23-24).
How can we get the kind of forgiving attitude that Jesus is talking about? As I said it goes against our human nature. We are often more interested in nursing our hurt and hurting the other person in return. How can we become forgiving and reconciling people?
Firstly, we need to get to know God and his marvellous ability to forgive. Jesus forgave the adulterous woman and the thief on the cross. God forgives you and me. His Son died on a cross and took on himself our sin. In baptism we are wash clean of all our sin. And when we stand before God on the day of judgement, God won’t drag up our old sins and demand that we please explain them.
As far as God is concerned, a forgiven sin is a forgotten sin and will not come between God and us ever again. That’s why Jesus died. He died to restore the relationship between God and us.
Secondly, the forgiveness of Jesus has brought us into God's family. We have been born anew as people who belong to God. We have been joined to Christ and filled with the Spirit in our baptism. Paul says, "Let the Spirit change your way of thinking and make you into a new person. …. Stop being bitter and angry and mad at others …. Instead, be kind and merciful, and forgive others, just as God forgave you because of Christ" (Eph 4:23,24, 31,32).
Thirdly, listen to the guiding of the Holy Spirit. Jesus is telling us to do something here that is outside of normal rational thinking. Eye for an eye is our natural inclination. Let the Holy Spirit fill us with love, patience, gentleness and spirit of reconciliation and turn away from everything that smacks of revenge and stubborn pride.
Let the Spirit speak to us through texts like today’s, and lead us to go to the person who has caused us some offence and seek reconciliation. Let the Spirit help us to realize that our relationship is more important than anything else.
Fourthly, forgiveness doesn’t come easy. It is hard work. It’s easy to make excuses, blame the other person, and justify our actions and attitudes. It’s easy to say it’s all his/her fault. I’ll just avoid him until he comes and apologizes to me. It’s even harder to go to someone and seek reconciliation when you have offended someone unintentionally and they are upset over something you are completely unaware of. This is where we really need the Spirit’s help so that we can let the light of Christ’s forgiveness shine through us and make a difference to the lives of others. And because forgiveness can be so hard, we should take it to the in prayer.
We need God’s forgiveness for the many times when we let our sinful nature take control and we let the pain and the hurt continue. When Jesus tells us to go to the person who has offended us, this puts us in a unique position.
The responsibility is placed upon us to take to that person the healing redemptive Word of God, and in love, without gossiping, without malice, or any other hidden motives, cover the sin of the other with love and forgiveness. God grant that we may forgive one another just as God has generously forgiven us.
In a moment we will be celebration Holy communion, the Eucharist other name for communion is a tangible means by which God shows us his grace, love, forgiveness, and acceptance through the body and blood of his Son Jesus Christ. Forgiveness is free gift from God now let us pass it on to others. Amen
Rev. Samuel King-Kabu
September 4 , 2005